So I am still on this healing journey, a journey that is not always pleasant at the immediate time, but the results of it far outweigh the pain involved from an emotional standpoint. I am learning that there truly is s joy to learning to grieve-to work through loss, to experience it, and allow God to restore you. And then chose not to stay in the "loss mode." The grief is just for a moment and that joy truly does come in the morning-a joy that doesn't fade as you walk out in a new day and realize that He allowed you to really process and work through whatever you were dealing with the day before. There is a joy to being able to do that with someone else that also understands that they don't need to try to "Fix" you or your pain, and that realizes that there is nothing that they or you can really do at all to fix it, except for you to present it as an offering to the Lord and allow Him to take it.
And when you realize that Jesus Christ himself was a man acquainted with sorrow and grief, you realize that He bore the sins and sorrow of this entire world upon Himself--and there was nothing that attracted us to Him. And as we grieve, our losses that are so much less than what He bore, it should be a reminder to us that it is just a tiny speck of the piece of the suffering that Christ bore for us. It all puts it into perspective-our load isn't that heavy compared to what He did for us--and we can go through it with Him....because He suffered for us in our place. And He attained the Ultimate Victory-victory over sin and death when He arose from the grave proving that HE IS GOD!!! (and there is no other.) And because of that, we too, can have the same victory.
There is nothing wrong with grieving--maybe our culture in general needs to learn how to do that better--sometimes it can take awhile----but the sorrow doesn't come close to the depth of joy that will follow.
Praise God that sorrow does endure for a night, but JOY does also come in the morning.